Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Not Like the Movies

This song is from Katy Perry's new album. I wish I could sit down and chat with her, she fascinates me as she comes from a strong Christian background but seems to have gone a different direction with her life.

I think I understand her heart behind this song but I have to admit I find it frustrating. I sympathize with that deep longing for "that fairy-tale feeling." I still fight doubts and fears about why my love doesn't look like the one I imagined as a kid. The reality is that for a lot of people, love doesn't resemble what we see the movies. And that's probably actually a good thing.

I don't know if Katy Perry wrote the song from a "teenage dream" perspective or the one she views the world from now. I wonder if she feels that Russell Brand was "made perfectly" for her, and the fulfillment of her childhood dreams. Part of me hopes she does, and that he is, and its for real. But the jaded part of me wonders how long it will take them to follow the traditional Hollywood whirlwind romance path and end up divorced.


KiddenKat said...

"They say you know when you know" is the line that gets me. You know what, I thought I knew. I was 100% completely in love, convinced I'd found my better half, and what happened? He broke up with me.
Perhaps it makes me sound jaded or harsh, but I've stopped trusting what the world tells me will tell me when I've found "the one". Instead, I think I live with a healthy uncertainty. Am I going to marry him? I don't know. And I probably won't be certain until I have a ring on my finger or until I've consciously made the decision to say yes, but not a second before he asks me. It's one of the few ways I know to protect my heart.
Sometimes I feel terribly unromantic for not expecting unexpected flowers or a song written for me or grandiose candlelit dinners, but the guy I've chosen to be with is simpler than that - and that's okay too.

Erika said...

First of all, thanks for commenting and sharing your thoughts! I love when people actually begin a dialog instead of just blog stalk :)

I think there is a lot to be said for "healthy uncertainty" and holding things loosely. At this point in my journey, I think swearing up and down that so and so is "the one" and that you "know" you're going to get married without a solid commitment is fairly dangerous. I've witnessed too many broken promises for that. For the rare few who have that kind of certainty, congratulations, I suppose, but it is so good to know it is not the ONLY way love happens.